Kathy Fan 2 wrote:I don't even think it's about acceptance. I don't think I'm that much into guys who are overly-effeminate. I don't think liking or disliking a "type" is the point. Spencer (and anyone else) can choose whatever he likes. I just think it's disheartening to see a gay guy openly judge someone else like that as too gay. It's basically playing into the stereotypes that if you act a certain way, you're not a real man. More than self-hating, I see it as insecurity, not wanting to be lumped in with the negative stereotypes.
I think it goes both ways. The effeminate gays are demanding that the more masculine gays be more accepting of them. They're like two totally different types of people. I have effeminate gay friends, some, anyway. But I'd never be sexually attracted to anyone like that. I don't condemn Spencer for not wanting to be associated with that stereotype either.
And, Katy, I've heard plenty of lesbians comment on their level of "butchness."
