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I've had some thoughts on this whole thing - not that I really care, but I'm bored, so I'm posting lol... I haven't even seen any of her post-show interviews or anything, so these are just thoughts (based on nothing but my brain cells lol)

I see people posting what a great and loving husband he is/was and I'm scratching my head over it. Just because he wrote that loving HOH letter doesn't mean their marriage was going good on both sides. Yeah, the segment they did also made it appear that he's loving & supportive - but we really have no idea. He could be a huge prick for all we know.

I'm surprised more of you Michele fans don't remember her talking about her marriage early on in the house. I can't remember who she was talking with, but I remember at least one conversation where she was saying they fought a lot and she felt he was emotionally abusive. Since none of us know the whole story, we can't say for sure - but Michele herself said he could be emotionally cruel early on in the house. Even if that's just HER perception, it's her perception nonetheless and just because he sent her a loving letter, that wouldn't solve underlying problems in their marriage and make them all better. She said he was not very affectionate and that he would oftentimes say mean and disparaging things to her. She mentioned that he often put her down and made her feel badly about herself.

I have a feeling being in the house gave her some distance from the situation, thus giving her some perspective on her life and marriage. She changed a lot in the house - physically of course, losing all that weight, but she also has talked post-house how much stronger it made her feel. It showed her she has an inner strength. This is a pretty powerful thing if you're someone who was in an emotionally abusive relationship. (Again, none of us know this - but Michele herself felt that way).

I don't know why then, when it came to her HOH and his letter, that she started talking about their great love and relationship - that sort of threw me and then I wondered if it wasn't an emotionally abusive relationship after all, but just that she's overly sensitive and over reacts? Again, I have no idea - it was just an inconsistency that confused me because she did talk quite frankly very early on that she felt her husband was sometimes cruel and cold toward her.

Also, she said one of the main reasons she went for BB was for her brother. That he was more free-spirited and she was more serious and he had told her frequently to get a life and live life more fully. This coupled with her gaining some empowerment in the house probably really made her look at her life and her marriage. I wasn't surprised at all to hear of the separation.

None of us can know the underlying issues unless they share them, but I'm sure the problems were there before her time in the house, and her time in the house gave her perspective and empowerment to make a change. I'm sure her husband wishes she had never gone into that house, but maybe it just speeded up what was inevitably coming anyway.

I also wonder if she's got a little bit of 'grass is greener' going on - she has had everyone telling her how hot she became in the house, maybe she just is being shallow and wants to be single again to pursue other people? They got married young, young, young and maybe she just wants to be wild and free. Who knows - we won't know unless they care to share.