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PART TWO of the Out magazine interview.

some stand out quotes:

I have to say, I didn't really expect to see someone on Idol tour jerking off a mic stand.
You know what was really funny about that -- a woman came up to me in the autograph line and was like, "This is a family show. You need to make this more appropriate." And I looked at her and said, "I don't need a lecture from you." I kinda smiled and she was like, "But there's little girls in the audience." I said to her, "They probably don't know what I'm doing. You do. They don't know what I'm doing. They just think I'm playing with my mic! They don't know that I'm jerking off. They don't get that yet. Come on! And, if they do, then…sorry."

They didn't learn it from you.
Hopefully it will facilitate a conversation. And it's not different from what Elvis and Michael Jackson did in their day. Relatively speaking.

It's nice to meet a gay man who enjoys drugs that aren't meth or coke.
I stay very far away from those things. It's funny too because I remember after that [Rolling Stone] article, my mom was like, "I don't know if you should have said all that stuff about drugs, Adam. You know there's a lot of kids…" And I said, "But that's life, that's real." I just wanted to be careful that it didn't turn into a fucking pageant. It doesn't have to be goody two-shoes. I'm not. I can fake it sometimes. Maybe. There is an element of responsibility. I'm not a jackass. There are kids exposed to things. I don't want to fuck up some kid's life or something, or make a parent's job really difficult. But at the same time, it's like --

Or they don't respect themselves in that situation.
It's a boundaries issue. They feel like because they know you and they like you that you owe them something. And it's a difficult situation because I do owe them something, with Idol. They voted. If it weren't for people out there voting for me, I wouldn't have made it on the show. So I do owe them a lot of gratitude, I do. But I think that that's what I owe them -- gratitude. I don't owe them to come join me for dinner when you're coming up to me in this restaurant and I'm trying to eat. "No, you can't sit down. No, you know what, I'm actually trying to eat dinner, can we take a picture another time?" It's just about boundaries, and respect. It's the one thing about being famous that's difficult to adjust to.

Then you have to balance that with being away so much, being on tour.
So who knows, you know? The other thing that's really hard is that you have to decide whether or not you have the focus and the energy to give to the other person. That's a difficult thing, too. And who knows what the future could hold with that. I might have to say, "You know, this is how much I love you, that I have to let you go. I can't give you what you deserve right now, so this isn't going to work." Hopefully it works. I want it to. But we'll cross that bridge when we come to it. Out of the love I have for him, I don't want to neglect it. [Sighs.] God, I can't believe I'm saying all this. I think we put all these expectations on relationships and create this idea of, oh, this is how it's supposed to be, because this is what all these other relationships that I see, that's how they are. I think it's really hard but really necessary to be like, but what are my needs? And what are your needs? And that's our relationship. And that's the hardest thing, because no one tells you how to do that.