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Hi lilacloela,
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lilacleola wrote:

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I need to ask you all something. Should I be upset? My husband and I are in our late 50's. He still teaches school.Just recently he decided to try to grow a beard. It is about a week's worth now. He told me, that the other day at work one of his fellow teachers (she is around 53) asked him if she could touch his face because the beard looked soft. So my husband allowed it. I am very upset:

1. Nobody should invade someones personal space.

This is generally not true. Nobody should invade someone's personal space... unless the person under consideration allows it. Asking nicely whether it is ok or not is enough in this case.

2. Being a married man, he should not have allowed it.

This is another misconception. There is nothing about marriage that prevents other girls from touching your husband's beart.

3. Who is to say what part of a person's body is more

sexual arousing than the next. Right? My point being what if she would have asked to find his penis and yank on it?

As long as she asks before touching, this should be ok. It is totally not ok to touch a person's beard or penis without politely asking first.

4. If a man saw my boobs hanging out and asked to squeeze them, what would he have done had I allowed it.

This depends on so many things.

Same exact difference.
5.I said to my husband that he needs to shave now just as I would have been expected to button up my top.
I am about ready to call the woman and give her a piece of my mind. Of course my husband thinks he did nothing wrong and I should not be jealous. Your thoughts on this will be appreciated.

The thing is, lilacloela, that the beard itself is not the problem. If he shaves, she might ask to touch his biceps next, or his hairy chest. Would you make him shave his chest too in that case? What if she asked to touch his penis? That you can't shave. There are obviously deeper issues here that we need to deal with that merely shaving or growing a beard.

Sincerely, VI