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SmrtAss |
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How was the paternity revealed after your mother's death (if I may ask)?
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springfeverish |
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Pseudo Propaganda wrote:Does that family even know what you look like? You can just say you're a friend. |
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ObservingEgo |
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I know you wouldn't feel comfortable ... but afterwards you would be glad you helped your sister. You don't have to linger. Just show up ... then leave. |
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lilnubber |
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Wow, Pseudie. I'm so sorry about your fucked up childhood.
<3 |
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GregBuisIsADick |
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Pseudo Propaganda wrote:My second cousin cheated on her husband...with her own niece's husband. What makes it even more fucked up is that she and her niece (who is my third cousin) had more of an older sister-younger sister relationship growing up. She actually left her husband to live with her niece's husband for a while. She had two young kids of her own and the niece had three younger kids. It was a real mess. My second cuz eventually reconciled with her husband, but the niece divorced hers. Her niece's father and mother and obviously her brother and sister-in-law and they still haven't forgiven her. The entire family knows about it - huge scandal. Anyway, hope that helps. |
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vanillaslave |
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I don't think he needs to go to the funeral at all, unless he is trying to piss his dad off.
Why did you side with the dead guy in the custody battle, psuedo? |
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Pseudo Propaganda |
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lol not posting her picture. She is very pretty though if that helps. My facebook friends can see pictures of her in my albums.
The paternity thing was such a fucking mess. When my mother died my aunt and cousin were also living with us. My parents divorced when I was about 8 shortly after my sister was born. We wanted to go on living with my aunt. My father was "the father" though and wouldn't have it but he agreed to let us stay with them for a year as a transition and we started family therapy. About half way through though my sisters father went to him and said he was the biological father. My father of course freaked out and made us all come to stay with him immediately and cut us off from seeing her father or my aunt (who worked for him). So initially my aunt tried to get custody of all of us but when that wasn't going to fly she kept up the case for my sister. But yeah basically my father won because it was my aunt going for custody. My sisters father was still married and couldn't go for custody himself. It was pretty much a family war that lasted about 12 years. I was lucky that I was already about 15 when it all went down so I got out in 3 years. Didn't talk to my father for 10 years after I graduated high school. |
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dmb154678 |
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jeez, you must have had some tense fucking festivuses in the psuedie household.
all you can do is be of service to your sister. the dead, well, can't do much for them. |
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SmrtAss |
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Pseudo Propaganda wrote:We used to tease one of my cousins because he didn't look anything like his two older sibs, who were blonde, blue eyed and squarely built, while he was a tall, dark, brown eyed string bean. Um, turns out there was a reason he didn't look like his sibs. As soon as I found out my uncle wasn't the baby daddy, I knew the father was a man I'd met only once as a child, and my cousin was his spitting image. Oh, and my sister's husband left her for his first cousin, moved out of state, and married her. That should make you feel wayyyyyy better. |
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Buggles73 |
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The guy fucked your mom, and ruined your family. Let him rot I say,
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MyPetGoat |
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My dad has an older sister that I remember being babysat by when I was 4 or 5 years old. She has not been seen or heard from in 40 years and no one in my
family seems to care about it much. Whenever I ask about Aunt Francine, everyone gets quiet and changes the subject.
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dmb154678 |
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the mechanics of what happened between two people who are dead are less important than the fact that your sister is a person, is alive, and can't help the
fact of how she got here. the true adults in your family will understand that. everyone else really isn't worth it.
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Pseudo Propaganda |
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Oh the funny thing is my sister looks just like her father. Actually looks almost exactly like his oldest daughter. They all have the same nose. We had friends
that used to joke when we were kids that he was her father because he was there all the time. When we found out we weren't surprised at all. It was like we
all knew we just didn't talk about it our loud. I mean I remember having a fight with my mother because I was jealous of the attention my sister got from
him.
Nilla I sided with the dead guy because he was a part of our life and I knew how much my mother loved him. My father and I weren't close. I remember my parents being separated more than being together and I always had issues with his Iranian ways. But after growing up I see things from his perspective as well. He is basically a very good man but he was not such a great father. |
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ObservingEgo |
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Yep ... your sister sounds pretty much at the epicenter of this drama and very much alone. |
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Crepuscular |
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I usually drift in and out of Sucks, my stays sometimes separated by entire years, and I tend to come back when my own life is particularly stressful or sad
because I need the laughs that this place offers. You know, the ability to be facetious and sarcastic here is almost an outlet of sorts, as dumb as that
sounds. Yet, it's things like this that remind me that outside of this flame war madhouse, we're all real adults (well, most of us). And it takes
people I've known like six or seven years, such as Pseudo, however tenuously, and gives an entirely new element to their personality.
Anyway, I'm sorry, Pseduo! There's nothing quite like that disconcerting feelings when a figure from your childhood dies. Especially one engulfed in an inflammatory past. I hope that things go well for your sister. |
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MunchkinsByProxy |
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Which page of the "People of Wal Mart" thread are you on?
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Podunk Town |
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goner1 wrote:Our Akita. Evita! |
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Kimbob the Magnificent |
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Your dad sounds like a man who is fiercely loyal to his children and worked hard for their happiness, even if he didn't always know the best way.
Sounds like you all had a lot of adults who tried their best to support you both in childhood and who were willing to fight for you and make sure you got counseling and all the other good stuff that goes along with the bad stuff. Overall I'd say that your situation is not as horrible as it could have been. Your mom is the real jerk here, by the way. These two men were a victim of what sounds like some serious mental illness. Your sister is the only important person here in this situation. Go with her and just sit in the back. Let her have her closure and be there for her. |
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IFY0USEEKATE |
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You should go with your sister, especially if the rest of the family have made it clear that they don't want her there. She has a right to grieve for her
father, and she will appreciate that you're there for her. Your presence may also prevent one of them from taking things out on her. If she goes alone,
she'll be an easy target for some "grief stricken" sibling.
In other fucked up family news: My Mother-in-Law got shitfaced drunk at my wedding and sat in my wedding cake. She also wore white, so the subsequent frosting stains on her ass were priceless. |
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squashthebeef |
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How come you refer to her as your sister but call the other guy's kid her half-brother? Aren't you just as much a half as he is?
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