sounds like a reasoned, measured analysis

I suppose I could do it if I'd just met the gal. But even if it's a totally open relationship or if we're just fuck buddies, after a while a certain posessiveness starts to creep in. It's just the way I'm built. I can keep it under control and muted as long as she's banging other dudes while I'm not around and keeping the details to herself. "I'm busy tonight, but do you wanna hang out tomorrow?" But in person, I just don't think I'm comfortable with that. Maybe later, maybe not.

Then there's the whole issue of being naked in the same room as a guy who is fucking. Even if we've both got our own chicks and aren't facing each other, I would still find it a bit weird. Maybe one day, with very trusted friends, I could do a MMF with each of us on opposit ends, maybe not. But DP is completely out of the question. Just too much of teh ghey for me.