My answer has to be seen through the glasses of one who has just reconnected with her soulmate but I know at least right now in his case he has no desire to go to a stripclub and get a lap dance. If he wants a lap dance he wants me to be the one doing it. And I am sure he finds other chicks attractive and that does not bother me. However, what I love is he will see a woman with hot shoes on (he has a bit of a shoe fetish) and his first thought is to ask her where she bought them because he wants to get me a pair.