A week ago my aunt's husband died. Now she and her kids are coming over here I guess to escape the memories of their house for 2 days. How are you supposed
to act in their company? Do you say sorry or do you not bring it up? Do you act normal??? I don't want it to be awkward.
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How are you supposed to talk to a widow? |
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Posts: 4003 (05/17/08 11:49 AM) Registered User |
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Posts: 806 (05/17/08 11:54 AM) |
Get it over with right at the beginning - say you're sorry, that he's in a better place blah blah blah. I think it'll be less awkward that way.
Then try acting normal, take them out, distract them etc. Oh, and if you're renting movies, make sure nobody dies in them!
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Posts: 4722 (05/17/08 11:55 AM) Still OT Forum Dominator
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Act normal. Take her cue- if she indicates that she wants to talk about her husband, let her talk. If not, just go for gentle, normal chitchat.
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Posts: 22094 (05/17/08 11:55 AM) Gadabout |
Skipping right to second base usually helps.
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Posts: 40 (05/17/08 12:11 PM) |
Tell her you slept with him. Anger is the best medicine.
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Posts: 2320 (05/17/08 1:00 PM) Registered User |
I hate the he's in a better place thing! Say you're sorry and then stfu if you have nothing to offer but trite platitudes. This is a pet peeve of mine.
So DON'T say any of the following:
1. He/she is in a better place. 2. Everything happens for a reason. 3. It was God's will. 4. He's going to burn in Hell since he didn't know Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. (OK, maybe say that one.) Say you're sorry, and don't say anything to try to minimize what the family is going through. People have to grieve, even if it makes other people uncomfortable. Don't be afraid to talk about the dead person, and don't avert your eyes when the grieving person brings him up. |
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Posts: 820 (05/17/08 1:10 PM) |
SmrtAss wrote: I guess it depends on the woman he's leaving behind....I know my uncle was definitely in a better place after death did them part. But either way, best not to say it to her face. Yet. |
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Posts: 138 (05/17/08 1:11 PM) Registered user |
was it sudden?
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Posts: 53128 (05/17/08 1:14 PM) Registered loser |
It's a fact that all widows are hard of hearing, so talking as loud as you can will help.
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Posts: 143 (05/17/08 1:21 PM) |
You got any plans for Saturday night?
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Posts: 4723 (05/17/08 1:23 PM) Still OT Forum Dominator
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You left out her bust size. Please advise and we'll adjust our answers accordingly.
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Posts: 146 (05/17/08 1:24 PM) |
I hear you're free this weekend.
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Posts: 13212 (05/17/08 1:29 PM) faqmaster |
Look over her shoulder towards the car and ask, "Tom couldn't make it?"
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Posts: 53131 (05/17/08 1:32 PM) Registered loser |
Make sure and set a place for him at the table, they'll appreciate that.
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Posts: 148 (05/17/08 1:32 PM) |
It's not cheating now.
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Posts: 13214 (05/17/08 1:36 PM) faqmaster |
Rent Ghost.
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Posts: 150 (05/17/08 1:44 PM) |
The Sixth Sense
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Posts: 823 (05/17/08 1:46 PM) |
You guys are so insensitive.
Rent Bambi for the kiddies. |
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Posts: 2322 (05/17/08 1:48 PM) Registered User |
Widows love it when their best friend's husband comes over to help with "manly" things and then offers to give it to her good.
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Posts: 12992 (05/17/08 2:03 PM) Registered user |
Was he a burner or a dumper? |
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